I’ve been Single a while, but I don’t bow my head in shame when I say the word like most girls do. It’s a choice I made quite a few years ago to not tie myself down when I am undoubtedly still slugging through the best years of my life. I love knowing that I can pick up and move to a new state if an opportunity presents itself without worrying about who I’ll be leaving behind. I can go where I want when I want without having to check in with someone. It’s either a selfish or smart way to live. I choose to think it’s smart.
In college, my friends and I were too wrapped up in throwing epic parties to even bother finding significant others. This suited us just fine. I love looking back at my college days knowing I made the absolute most of those four short years without someone holding me back from doing whatever my heart desired in any given moment. It was liberating, and when it finally came to an end, I had a sinking suspicion that the career I was trying so desperately to launch would ultimately be my top priority over finding a date for Friday nights. Online dating? Noooo, thank you. The few horrifying hits I got from my first foray into that nightmare turned me off the whole thing pretty strongly, even though I have friends who have found boyfriends, fiancés, and husbands on sites like OKCupid, Plenty of Fish, Match, eHarmony, etc. I still have time. I’m not worried.
Anyway, whether single by choice or by circumstance, V-Day is still a tough one for us single ladies to grin and bear each year. (My fellow single girlfriends and I are planning a night out this year—tearing up a dance floor, drink in hand, sounds like the perfect escape from the sight of the chocolate boxes and red roses that pop up everywhere.) I expressed my disdain for this holiday last year with a look at three of my favorite romance movies to drown my sorrows in—and since my outlook hasn’t changed in the past 365 days, here we go again with three more movies.
You’ve Got Mail | 1998
I adore Meg Ryan and Tom Hanks together. While I also love Sleepless in Seattle, they spend barely a fraction of screen time together in that film. In You’ve Got Mail, they both sell books (love) in New York City (love more). It’s full of swoon-worthy quotes for nerdy readers/writers like me, such as, “I would send you a bouquet of newly sharpened pencils if I knew your name and address.” I love that two would-be-star-crossed lovers come together in perfect serendipity. Also, my next golden will be named Brinkley.
Penelope | 2006
This is a love/hate film for people. I am completely crazy about it, but I’ve shown it to friends who think it’s one of the stupidest things they’ve ever seen. The movie plays like a fairytale, with Penelope (Christina Ricci) being cursed with the nose of a pig and follows her quest to find love and break the spell. Peter Dinklage and Reese Witherspoon also star, but the main attraction (for me) is the ever-adorable James McAvoy who falls for her and helps her realize the only love she really needs is the kind that comes from within.
Crazy Stupid Love | 2011
Touted as one of the smartest rom-coms of this era, Crazy Stupid Love turns your expectations on their head and delivers a witty, poignant, and hilarious romantic movie. Perfectly casted, it weaves the storylines of one family with some new connections and brings them together at the end with one hell of a side-splitting twist. I love Steve Carell, Ryan Gosling, and Emma Stone, so seeing them all in one film is always a plus. And yeah, it pushes the importance of soulmates, but it’s done so well that I don’t mind.